i celebrated the fourth of july with a few fellow americans in sweden for the first time this year. fun! of course, i have celebrated every year one way or another… last year was extra special. anyway, it was a fun evening last night, so i thought i’d give you a little peek into our celebrations! hoping all you americans had a happy 4th! warning: there are more american flags than one should have around them at any given time…
hi friends! long time, no post… huh? geez, i have missed y’all. i’ve missed writing and posting, but i have been super busy the past 4ish days. and i do believe that the busy-ness is only getting started.
this past weekend i was in the woods with the teenagers i work with from friday until sunday. oh, my nature soul was soooo very happy. the weather was quite beautiful as well. sunshine. warmth. and even a bit of cozy rain one of the evenings. we played games, had some little chat hours (i had 3 little workshops on challenging yourself, taking risks, and believing in yourself), did some BBQ-ing, watched a movie, laughed, hung out by a lake, and just enjoyed being together.
on sunday, we left the camp in the morning and headed to the church. during the morning service, i got to serve communion (always a great, powerful honor), lead the service, recognize some of the youth, and then there was a moment that the congregation said their official “goodbye” to me (though i work until july 15, but people are gone from regular life after midsummer – june 21). it was emotional standing there with those i had worked with standing behind & around me. gaaahhh. as much as i have left places, it never ever gets easier. but, it always makes me feel grateful, amazed, and so overwhelmed to have had the experiences i have had.
as i stood there, listening to the chairperson talk, feeling the people around me, i thought about the craziness that my life has been. the amazing craziness. to get to move to sweden. learn a new language. get a job. in something i am educated for. work with really good people. and have a chance to be me, even though i am in another country. it was in that moment that i felt i needed to pinch myself, to know that i was actually this little american girl from north carolina, with big dreams and hopes, who has had an opportunity to live them out. to follow them, and watch them come true.
the only advice i have for all of you who have even the tiniest dream is to chase it! chase that soul-filling, mind-blowing, seemingly impossible dream to the ends of the earth if you have to. and be patient. sometimes it takes a while for dreams to materialize. for me, it took 15 years to get here. but, it was so worth the ride. trust the universe. trust god. and trust in yourself.
after my work day (work weekend i guess) at church, i rushed home, jumped in the shower (because ewwwww… i had been camping for some days), and headed for the train station. yep. within a couple of hours of leaving the woods, i was on a train headed to the big city.
my love and i were off to stockholm sunday evening – monday evening. lina had an appointment at the american embassy…. to determine if she would qualify for a visa! sunday night we stayed with a friend, and since the weather was summer-like, we walked to a harbor area with a rock mountain overlooking the water and had a BBQ. it was more perfect than perfect. truly.
monday morning came, and the sun was still shining. we ate breakfast on a balcony and then headed downtown to get lina to the embassy ontime. it was a nerve-racking time, not knowing how things would turn out. things are quite complicated/weird with us… since we are 2 women, married, and bi-national. though lina was applying for a student visa and not a green card (not possible thanks to DOMA and same-sex discrimination), there was still a chance they’d question things. but…. everything went perfectly! and she was approved!
while she was in the embassy (i could not enter and be with her), i walked. and walked. and walked. and like a tourist, i took pictures every 10 feet. it was such a great morning for me, and i felt guilty for having such a peaceful time while lina was going through an american visa interview.
after celebrating the end of the visa process together at an american restaurant in stockholm, we spent the rest of the afternoon wandering, shopping, and just soaking up the beauty of the city built on islands. then, it was an early train back home and a cozy landing into my own bed after 3 nights away.
all in all, an intensive, but unbelievably amazing weekend! i took tons of photos, of course, which i will post in a few upcoming posts. but, for now, i’ll leave you. we are in 100% moving mode in our little home. time to get down to business. woo hoo!
sending you peace and love.
in celebration of the news that lina and i have gotten an apartment in asheville (screams of joy & delight here!!! eeeeee!!!), AND in honor of the fact that i’m moving back to my home state to live in said amazing apartment in asheville, AND in shock of the coincidence that i found the following post of 38 signs you are from north carolina on the day after we got our apartment in the 38th year of my life, when i return to the amazing state of northcarolina, i present to you…
why i will always be a north carolina girl no matter where i live and 38 ways you can tell you are a fellow NC-ian!
1. You have very strong feelings about Duke, UNC, and NC State.
it doesn’t matter if you went to any of the above schools, you still have an allegiance to one. perhaps an unhealthy one. regardless, nothing fires you up quite like college basketball in north carolina. all three universities within 30 minutes of each other, the rivalry is intense. and it goes back generations in families. my family… Duke and State. most definitely anybody but Carolina. yuck!! but, don’t forget about Wake Forest, a little further down the road.
2. You know Cheerwine is not actually wine but one of the greatest carbonated beverages ever.
north carolina may be the birthplace of some other sodas, but none of them even come close to the awesomeness of cheerwine. for real.
3. You have gotten into fights about what style of barbecue is better.
4. You know it’s no fluke Asheville has been named Beer City for three consecutive years.
The craft beer scene is unreal. From the mountains, Highland Brewing, to the foothills, Catawba Valley Brewing, to the piedmont, NoDa Brewing, to the coastal plains, Weeping Radish Farm Brewery, and everything inbetween. If you like beer, North Carolina is where it is at.
have you read any of my posts before? how many times to i use this… for real. :)
6. You know tea is always better sweetened. and cold.
my grandma made the absolute best. i think she dumped a whole pound of sugar in the hot water filled with tea bags. it melted & brewed perfectly. then, she poured it in a big ole pitcher, filled it with ice, and put it in the fridge. after a while, time to sip on some tea and sit on the back porch watching birds & squirrels. awesome memories. if y’all come visit us, i’ll make you some sweet tea and we can sip it on our balcony. and you’ll love it. promise.
7. You have a favorite NASCAR driver.
ok. you may not even be a NASCAR fan, but that doesn’t stop you from knowing which driver you want to win the Coca Cola 600 every memorial day weekend. and there is no arguing about the late, great dale earnhart.
8. You’d happily live off of Bojangles’ biscuits.
or cinnamon twists, or boberry biscuits, or seasoned fries. (right, reynolds family?!) oh yeah. and spicy fried chicken. i mentioned just last night that my parents should eat breakfast at bojangles, when my mom stated she didn’t know where to eat as they drove across the state. i knew they were near an exit with a bojangles. yes, i know where they are all across the state. seriously.
9. You know the proper pronunciation of Appalachian.
it’s like nails on a chalkboard, y’all. it shouldn’t be this difficult.
think latch and not lay, App-a-LATCH-un and not App-a-LAY-shun.
deliciously yummy. and truly southern.
11. You still have beef with Ohio.
no matter what the argument is, wilber & orville wright were the first to fly. and that happened in north carolina. not ohio.
12. You know what it means to have a burger “all the way.”
chili. slaw. onions. mustard. perfection. right, dad?! dear me, i’m not gonna be a vegetarian anymore when i move back.
13. You know no holiday or big family dinner is complete without greens.
they must be cooked into oblivion with some sort of pig product. pig juices + collards = orgasmic. not my favorite dish. still, always there. the old folks really liked it. and you too, mom, but you’re not old.
14. You’re a closet “leaf looker”.
ok. i’m not in the closet about this. i admit it. i’m proud of it. i drive around all fall, with all the tourists, taking pictures of the same views and same places every single year. because it’s just that darn beautiful. you gotta make it to the mountains during the fall.
15. Seeing a Florida license plate drives you into fits of rage.
this is especially true if you lived in the western part of the state. it is a well-known fact that floridians want to drive on mountain roads, but they’re not skilled at it. not at all.
16. You watched the ACC Basketball Tournament in class.
the tournament started on a friday, and on that friday, every tv attached to the wall in a classroom was turned to the channel streaming the games. yeah. not much work got done that day. we might not have been able to swing getting time off to watch the tourny, but it didn’t matter because it was streaming in every classroom.
17. You had a snow day…without any snow.
it didn’t matter if there was snow on the ground or not. if there was a threat of snow, class was canceled. a bit of a contrast from my life here in sweden.
18. You have an appreciation (obsession) of bluegrass.
19. You’ve attended a pig pickin’ or two.
looks gross. sounds gross. but it is an amazing community, family kinda picnic. and a major southern tradition. organic. tribal. and native. good food. good people. yes, folks. i even had a pig-pickin’ as my rehearsal dinner for my first wedding. classy, maybe not. but, fun and awesome and real. hell yeah.
20. You like to brag about the North Carolina music scene. Cause it’s awesome.
and rightly so! from Ben Folds to Ryan Adams to James Taylor to Mount Moriah toLittle Brother to Randy Travis to all those bluegrass people to the NC Symphony to gospel music and so many others, you know north carolina has a very eclectic and amazing music scene.
21. You have friends who have done some cow tipping.
not that i ever did anything like that. really. i didn’t. but small town north carolina doesn’t have much else to do. not that that’s an excuse. and it is terrible and cruel. but, it is what it is. i can only do all i can to help people break this tradition. but, i think i’m alone on that quest.
22. The Lost Colony of eastern NC fascinates you.
sure, it might have been boring in your fourth-grade history class, but as you got older you realized how it had all the makings of a badass movie. mystery! intrigue! cryptic notes carved onto trees! possible cannibalism! vampires! it had it all. plus, it was the first english colony in the new world. yep. NC, first again. ohhh… can’t wait to visit the mysterious island again.
23. So does Blackbeard.
has there been anyone more badass than Blackbeard the Pirate (the inspiration for Johnny Depp’s Jack Sparrow)? nope! blackbeard (aka Edward Teach) was a feared pirate and a legitimate crazy person. blackbeard wasn’t originally a North Carolinian, but he settled down with his 14th wife (yes, i said 14th!) in bath, nc and died there — and by the way, his ship, the Queen Anne’s Revenge, sunk off the coast of beaufort, where my family is from, so we claim him in all his crazy, bad-assness.
24. You’ve jumped off Jockey’s Ridge. (and i have).
it looks like the desert. and a giant mountain of never-ending sand. it doesn’t feel like you’re in nc, but it is the largest sand dune on the east coast and is the most visited park in the NC park system. cool, huh? it’s actually in the same area where the wright brothers had their first flight. and it is amazing to jump off the top, fall into the sand, and just keep rolling all the way down. lina, i promise to take you here!!
25. You have a favorite swimmin’ hole. (and i do).
pick your place. the coast. a creek in the piedmont. or a cold, mountain stream. my favorite spot used to be sliding rock, back when i was a kid, there was no one around. now, the park system has installed bathrooms, parking lots (how on the side of a mtn i don’t know), and there is a line to slide down the rock. so, now i prefer a little hidden place off of highway 215 or in cataloochee valley or in joyce kilmer forest.
26. You know the best time to visit the Grove Park Inn is during gingerbread house time.
this is crazy. i mean crazy. the talent. the goodies. the luxurious grove park inn. it is a must every single holiday season.
27. You know the importance of preferring dark blue over light blue (or vice versa, if you’re sick).
and one of the colors is waaaaay more beautiful than the other…
28. There was a plastic jug of moonshine in your freezer or on your back porch or in your barn.
and, you know, there’s nothing like drinking out of a mason jar. pure class all the way.
and the food? cheap. fast. greasy. tastes like grilled outdoors. deeelicious.
30. Christmas Town, USA, is the bane of your existence.
you’ve never been to McAdenville to see the christmas lights. it’s too big of a production and the thought of it gives you a panic attack. you have, however, been stuck on I-85 in traffic for hours behind people (probably with florida license plates) trying to get in the town to see it. christmas town, USA, is the worst and you don’t care if that makes you a scrooge.
instead, i just put up my own lights display. so there.
31. You were eating Krispy Kreme doughnuts before they got all popular and trendy.
been eating these for as long as i can remember. and, when my parents saw that “hot now” sign lit up, it didn’t (doesn’t) matter what time of day or night, we’d be stoppin’.
32. “Wagon Wheel” will never, ever get old.
ahhhh…. the feeling of home. proud. you’re also territorial about it and don’t appreciate non-north carolinians loving it so much. STOP SINGING THIS AT KARAOKE, GIRL FROM CALIFORNIA.
33. The sight of this brings you pure joy.
NBA basketball in NC… yeah!
34. And the sight of this reduces you to tears.
NFL football in NC. not. so. great. panthers, you just ain’t got it.
35. You had no idea hockey was an actual sport until this happened.
hockey? in north carolina? and we won it all?
36. Speaking of hurricanes, you’ve lived through one, or 2, or 3.
i can’t count the number of hurricanes i’ve experienced. at the coast. in the piedmont. in the mountains. the whole state is just sticking out into the atlantic waiting to be hit. but, being storm chasers and storm shoppers runs in my family. we know how to make it through a storm. and we love doing it. (luckily, we have never suffered any totally destructive damage).
37. You’ve figured out some creative ways to get around blue laws (when you can & cannot buy alcohol) and the lack of happy hour in the state.
no problem. we’ll make our own.
38. And even when the state disappoints you, you still ardently defend it.
in may 2012, north carolina passed a marriage amendment which stated that marriage was ONLY between a man and a woman, thereby writing discrimination into it’s state constitution. it’s sick. it’s disappointing. and scary. yet, i still have hope. there are tons of supporters of marriage equality. tons of fighters. and come two months from now, i’m joining the fight. right there on nc soil. marriage equality will come to nc. i believe it.
but, no matter what, i love nc. it’s home. it’s my history, including my history with my amazing wife. and now, it’s also our future. it is a beautiful, diverse, sometimes backwards, intelligent, natural, artsy, place to live. here’s to you, north carolina!