immigration said yes!

guess what i got?!

today my PERMANENT residence card came in the mail… the swedish immigration offices have given me permission to stay! i am officially a resident of sweden!

so, tonight, my love and i went out for very short celebration at a cozy restaurant in our neighborhood…

it really is a big day for us. and it feels amazing to know that i am settled, accepted, and have the rights to be here… permanently. i am so thankful that sweden allows me to stay, to live, to be with my love here. too bad my home country (USA, i mean you.) doesn’t have the same kind of laws, where everyone is treated equally. here, it didn’t matter at all what gender lina & i are. what mattered is that we are committed to loving each other, and have built a life here together.

it’s crazy to get to stay! or, at least until lina & i dream up another adventure… mouwahahaha. in the meantime, i feel so blessed,thankful, and overwhelmed at the fact that i truly have 2 homes. and to share life with my love, to know without a doubt that we can be together, that mean everything to me.

so, tonight, i lay my head on my pillow as one who is not a tourist, not a person with limited permission to be here; but as a wife as one who has the right to sleep here every night. though i have permission to be in this physical place now, no restrictions at all, i am reminded tonight in the midst of feeling so excited and proud, that, wherever my love is, is my home. and now i’m officially, truly, really, legally home.

goodnight, world. peace.

girl power.

i’m not sure why, but i’m in a girl power kinda mood tonight. if i was into burning bras, i would do it right now. if there was a women’s rights protest happening nearby, i’d go there. some days i feel more like a feminist than others. i have no reason to be feeling that way today, nothing happened. nothing at all. i just feel it. sometimes i feel it when i see my wife, when i think of her, when i am proud to be married to her because we are women, because she is who she is. sometimes i feel how all women are strongly connected and part of each other. sometimes it’s just a day to embrace my feminism, what it means to be a woman, and the importance of all girls to have the chance to feel this surge of girl power rising from within them. some days i just feel empowered. strong. proud.

there are many, many amazing women out there. i have met a great deal and have had the joy of all kinds of amazing women passing through my life. and then there are many who i have not met, but have inspired me just as much. so, here are some quotes… just some women & some words that inspire me that i thought i’d share with you. i may have gone over the top, but there’s just so much good stuff that can’t be missed.

“A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.”
― Gloria Steinem

“As a woman I have no country. As a woman I want no country. As a woman, my country is the whole world” ― Virginia Woolf

“Experiment! Meet new people. That’s better than any college education . . . By adventuring; about, you become accustomed to the unexpected. The unexpected then becomes what it really is . . . the inevitable.” ― Amelia Earhart

“I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains.” – Anne Frank.

“I hate to hear you talk about all women as if they were fine ladies instead of rational creatures. None of us want to be in calm waters all our lives.” ― Jane Austen

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
― Coco Chanel

“Finally, by the sea, where God is everywhere, I gradually calmed.” ― Patti Smith

“One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. But to sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying.” ― Joan of Arc

“I crossed the street to walk in the sunshine.” ― Elizabeth GilbertEat, Pray, Love

“You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen.” ― Michelle Obama

“Be who God meant you to be and you will set the world on fire.” ― St. Catherine of Siena

“I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning to sail my ship.” - Louisa May Alcott.

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.

“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life’s a bitch. You’ve got to go out and kick ass.” - Maya Angelou.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? - Marianne Williamson.

in the words of a great woman who left this world this week… “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” ― Nora Ephron

peace, love, rainbows, & girl power.

day 7: someone who inspires you.

a bunch of people inspire me. but, on this day, there is a large group of people who inspire me for a very specific reason…

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tomorrow, tuesday the 8th, is a voting day in nc. the above poster is one urging people to vote against an amendment to the north carolina constitution. it is a amendment which would define marriage as only between one man and one woman, thus eliminating any hope of nc becoming a state that celebrates & recognizes same-sex marriage. now, get this. the proposed amendment is not even necessary, because same-sex marriages are already illegal in nc. it is simply going a step further and adding a clause which would write in discrimination. hear that? nc would be a state that, in 2012, wants to add more discrimination to their laws.

not only does the amendment ban any hope of the recognition of same-sex marriage, but it also messes with other rights, involving citizens who have nothing to do with this marriage equality issue. it’s a bad amendment all the way around.

so, who inspires me? all of those people who haven voted already and wiill show up to vote tomorrow AGAINST this amendment. these are people voicing their support for equality & justice for all people. these are the people who refuse to take part creating a states with more discrimination than already exists. these are the people who inspire me today.

we’ll see what happens after tomorrow. will the amend meant pass or not? after last week’s vote against LGBT inclusiveness in the church, my little heart can only take so much. for now, all i can do is wait. and tell everyone from nc to VOTE NO for amendment one.

peace and equality? is it really too much to ask for?