today it was all about the jeans and the tee… my go-to outfit. my fav outfit. my i-can-wear-this-everyday outfit. it’s just me. casual. carefree. relaxed. simple.
wearing my fav style today got me thinking… about me. who i am. these clothes, while they may not be fancy or anything special, are precisely who i am. i was home all day (except a necessary grocery store run), so i could just be me in all my jeans & tee-shirt glory. i had no one to impress, nothing to worry about, no goal except comfort & a fun-lovin’ style.
it’s funny. just as i was feeling so comfortable with myself (my outfit. hehe.)today, there were people voting on issues that make a statement on who i am. you see, as i’ve said earlier this week & earlier today, there was a vote in the united methodist church (umc) regarding the church’s stance on homosexuality coming up. well, the vote was today. and the vote did not go well. they voted against me, actually. the church voted 60ish% to 30ish% (i think) to keep the language in the umc rule/theology book the same as it has been for 40 years. that language says that homosexuality & LGBT people are incompatible with christian teaching. the amendment presented was to remove those words, and instead place in a statement on agreeing to disagree, acknowledging that we have so many different views & beliefs on this (and other issues). but, that was voted down. the word “incompatible” remains. ugh.
do you know what that means to me? it means that this church, which i have loved my entire life, refuses to take a stand on equality, refuses to put relationships over rules, refuses to focus on grace instead of sin; continues to discriminate, continues to call homosexuality (and therefore all LGBT people) a sin, refers to all LBGT people as unholy, causes pain & division, and continues to take part in the oppression, bigotry, and hatred of a minority group. how is this possible in the united methodist church?!
you may think i’m over the top in what i say. but, it is true. you may thing of me as some radical, protesting, activist. and i am. i listened to people say today that who i am is a sin, who i love is a sin, and that i do not deserve the same treatment/rights as the powerful majority. i also heard the silence of many people who refuse to speak out, but are willing to maintain the status quo. well, not me. nope. i will speak out. i will write. i will post. i will make contact. and i will fight for equal rights. but, not just for equal rights of LGBT people, but for all people. everywhere.
and i don’t need the church to tell me who i am. i know exactly who i am. besides, today, the church got it wrong. i am somebody. somebody with gifts, with passion, with love, with a message. i would love to have the affirmation of the church that i grew up in and admired so much for it’s focus on grace & social issues. but, the church i saw today, the church that i have seen over the past few years, is not concerned with focusing on grace and working for social justice. instead, the umc of today is more concerned with numbers of members, saving itself, pointing out sins, and not rocking the boat.
sorry church, i know who i am. and who i am is someone who refuses to settle for the status quo. who i am is someone who refuses to sit back and watch the powerful few run the ship. who i am is someone who will not keep quiet and simply look for the middle ground. the middle ground is nice sometimes, and it is important to respect all opinions, and i do. but, that does not mean that i have to just sit in the middle and smile at people on the left and on the right. it’s not about sides anyway. it’s about love. equality. acceptance. it’s about a world, a kingdom, in which love reigns. a place where everyone coexists and where grace abounds.
who i am is someone who will do her work within and/or without the church… just so long as i am always true to who i am. my jeans, my tees, and my wife included.
I’m sad to hear about the vote, but your strength gives me strength. It’s so nice to hear someone being true to themselves no matter what others say and no matter who the ‘others’ might be. You go girl. (: Stand up for what you believe in, and never love your loving heart. You’re amazing just as you are. <3
awww, heather, thank you so much for your support. it means so much.
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It makes me so sad that this happened. All you want to do is express your love through the outlet of the church, and instead they treat you as inferior and prevent you from doing that. I hate it. Can’t even imagine how it must feel for you. 🙁 But like you said, you’re going to do your thing with or without the church… just sucks that they’re sabotaging themselves and are pushing away amazing people like yourself.
you know it, catherine, i’ll never give up on doing my thing! thanks for all of your work & support for peace & justice in this world. come visit us! 🙂
You are brilliant. 😀
Keep being you, always. 😀
you are so sweet and kind. xx
Hate is wrong. But love can never be. It’s that simple.
I’m sorry your church is not supporting you. I hope one day they will realize their mistake. They are already unsure if they even had a vote on it. Stay strong and true to who you are. There are a lot of us who can see that you are good and doing nothing wrong. I wish you inner peace and much happiness.
wow. thank you so much. you are so right, love is never wrong. too bad not everyone sees it that way. but a long as there are those of us who continue to believe in love, the hate will never win. sending peace & happiness right back to ya.
You have everything 100% spot-on Liz- never, ever doubt it. The tiny-minded individuals of this world are just that. The crazy bit is that they seem happy & content to be the cause of so much dis-content.
Keep your chin up & your sights set high (at least over the tops of these pinheads- lol)…We’ll get there in the end. “Slow & steady…”
you know it! we’ll make it. love really does win… i bet my life on it! thanks for your words of support. 🙂
I’m sorry the voting didn’t turn out better. It’s very dissappointing that people are so… stubborn? closed-minded? stuck in the past?
Don’t give up your battle with this… The world needs more people like you.
it’s is so frustrating & sad. but, i will most definitely never give up. you are so sweet to write such kind words. x