the key to creating the life you want every single f*ucking minute

i cannot let go of the weekend i had last weekend.

the thoughts and feelings and impressions have stayed with me, influencing me every single day. in the midst of my busy, regular, ordinary life. and, friends, that, for me, is all that i have ever wanted.

you know how you have those incredible experiences, those mountaintop highs and super inspiring days where you feel like everything is just lined up perfectly? when you feel like you’re grounded and flying all at the same time? like you are exactly where you are supposed to be and every single breath is a deep reach into your soul. those days that are filled with excitement, adventure, joy, and peace.

that’s exactly how i felt last weekend during my last life coach training meeting with my group of fellow life coachers. i was on the top of the mountain. and soaking it all in. every step, every breath, every word was infused with inspiration and peace.

of course, those mountaintop moments always, always lead us back down into the valley. back into real life. where things get ordinary and we somehow lose that sense of complete freedom + inspiration. and we find ourselves yearning for the next mountaintop moment again.

am i right? anyone else experience life like this? living for the next big thing, the next big moment. whether it’s the weekend, vacation, a trip, graduation, accomplishing a goal, or any other thing that we look forward to.

these are all things to be excited about. good, fun, amazing things. but in order to reach them, we have to live life. and i mean regular, everyday life. which gets boring. and messy. and tough. and confusing. it sucks all of that mountaintop bliss out of us.

however, i believe… no, i have discovered, a new way of living. a way that does not turn all of life into one mountaintop experience after another. but, a life that values and enjoys and anticipates all of the  ordinary valley days as well. a life where bliss is the way of life, no matter if it’s a high day or a low day or just a regular fucking day.

now, i’m no expert on living like this… yet. hehe. but, i have experienced it. and my ability to live life like this is growing as each day, month, and year passes. and for that, i am truly grateful.

so, what has happened to me this week, since my blissful life coach training time out in the midst of the swedish nature, where i literally woke each morning and stood on the top of a little mountain all by myself, is just amazing.

all of those feelings have stayed with me. the excitement. the groundedness. the inspiration. the connectedness. they have remained. even as i have been exhausted and tired. frustrated at work. saddened by a student’s life situation. excited at a sunny afternoon at home after work. wiped out from another long day. worried and anxious. mundanely doing laundry or cooking dinner. enjoying conversations + laughter with friends. snuggling with my wife. talking with my mom. organizing.

in it all… i felt bliss. i felt my soul. i felt whole.

even though i left the coziness of last weekend behind and entered the city again, even though i felt moments of irritation and moments of happiness, even though i was bored and having fun, i still felt whole. my life did not feel divided up into bunch of different compartments, even though my setting changed: nature, work, home, stockholm, uppsala,tons of people, solitude. through it all, i felt the same from deep within. i slowly moved in and out of all of my moments. stable. secure. at peace.

side note: this started out as a post of things that i learned last weekend, and it just flowed into this. so, i’ll let it be. my list of things that i learned will turn into a list of things i believe as a life coach… summarizing all that i have learned this past year (and throughout my life). that post will come soon enough. for now, this is what needed to spill out of me and onto my keyboard. 

i can share with you, though, the main thing that i am carrying with me since last weekend (that i have been learning + expressing and incorporating into my life for the past year)… the thing that has been part of the key to not living a life of just highs + lows, mountains + valleys, switching back and forth between bliss + boredom…

we all have a choice to make every single minute, every single moment (varje ögonblick in swedish, i love that word). the question that we have, the choice that we can make every morning when we wake, and every subsequent second thereafter, is this:

how do i want my life to be? / hur vill jag att mitt liv ser ut? / what kind of life do i want? 

(for some reason i feel like i need to express myself in swedish as well… so i am just going with it. just fyi).

and then, when we know what we want + how we want to live, it’s just to live it out. to decide every single fucking minute to create that life that we want. it’s just to do it. we have all of the power + all of the freedom. the power to take a regular work day and make it a day of bliss. the power to make taking out the garbage into act act of sacred bliss.

here’s my inner soul conversation:

• do i want a slow, intentional, creative life filled with inspiration, people, meaning, wildness, and meaningfulness?
• well, that’s a big HELL YES.
• then, every little thing i decide to do, every little way that i act, every little decision i make is chosen to support that vision for my life.
• i. just. do. it.

and that, my friends, is how i am fully living + enjoying the in-between the mountaintop experiences. that is how i am carrying them with me. that is how i am choosing + deciding + making my life a life of bliss.

blessings on your own journey. contact me if you don’t know yet what kind of life you want to create or if you need some help discovering + uncovering how you can live your own life of bliss every single damn day.

xoxo. liz.