so. let me get this straight, nc. some of you want the citizens of NC to vote next november on a ban against same – sex marriages, which are already not allowed/recognized in the state. huh? you want to be sure that marriage is defined as only between a man & a woman, as the Bible states (insert a tiny bit of sarcasm here). so, you want to mix religion & government? cross lines between the church and the state by mandating that your beliefs become law?
but you know, NC, what this really means, right? it means that if i move back to NC, with my wife who is from Sweden (where we live now), so that we can be near my family and enjoy the beautiful, diverse, and culturally rich state where i have spent my whole life, you not only will not recognize my marriage – which means my love cannot get a green card, but you will restrict me from visiting her if she ends up sick and in the hospital. and you will not allow us to have family health insurance since we are not a “real family” in your eyes, thereby forcing us to pay more money out of pocket for health insurance, even though we have committed ourselves to love each other just as most of you have.
basically, you are saying we are second-class citizens and our marriage, in your belief which you want to make law, is not real. our love is not real. our commitment is not real. are you saying that i am inherently a different person, with different gifts, talents, & abilities now that i am married to a woman, and therefore undeserving as a human being of the same rights i had before i was married? oh, NC, you are missing out on 2 women who can add so much to whichever NC city they would choose to make their home. we want to make a difference where we live, but we cannot live where we are not respected or allowed basic, civic rights like hospital visitation & health insurance. we are no less than you. and we will stand for nothing less than true equality.
NC, your churches can decide whatever they want on this issue, i am simply asking that this great state consider the civil rights of all people and seek to move forward, not backward. i would love to come home one day.
peace. and equality.