watch this video, and then read on…
most of y’all know that even though lina and i are legally married, our marriage is not legal or recognized in north carolina (where we now live) because in this southern state, marriage is specifically defined and written into our nc government as being only between one man and one woman. same sex marriages, even legal ones from other states or countries, do not count. in short, here we are second class citizens. it’s completely unfair, discriminatory, and infuriating.
but, we live in the city of asheville. and asheville does things a little bit differently. it is a city that is filled with all kinds of people, with all kinds of beliefs and looks and ideas. so, it’s this diverse place where opinions and differences are, dare i say, celebrated, if not just accepted. so, it is the place to live if you are in a same sex relationship.
personally, lina and i have had no problems at all – and i didn’t expect us to. no one treats us any differently – people may disagree, but the idea is “live and let live”. anyway, we have been lucky. and we are blessed. the city is even filled with amazing lgbtq lawyers who fight to secure estate (will) rights, hospital rights, powers of attorney, and all that other legal mumbo jumbo. so, we have hired a lawyer, and she will be preparing tons of documents for us, guaranteeing our rights as a legally married couple.
our attorney’s wife (she is in a same sex relationship herself) is a minister and the leader of an lgbtq campaign for marriage equality in the southern states – called the WeDo campaign . for over a year now, same sex partners have been going into the register of deeds offices of the cities where they live to apply for a marriage license. every single couple has been turned down. hundreds and hundreds of couples all across the south. time and time again. their applications are rejected. only because of who they love and wish to marry.
tons of same sex couples have also applied here in asheville, only to be turned away every single time….
yesterday, something amazing happened. it was planned and scheduled. there were about 10 couples and a few hundred supporters who marched to the register of deeds office to apply for marriage licenses through the WeDo campaign.
take a look and see what happened…
there is still a ways to go, but this was a step. a huge step.